Why the Personality Trait “Shyness” is a Hypnotic Trance, which has you accepting that you are not charismatic by nature? And the Key to ending its grip forever!
The one thing that perplexed me in curing my shyness was that I didn’t understand why it always felt as though this debilitating mantle was restricting to me. There was always something inside of me that looked at the way I would express myself to the world and compare to see others doing it naturally. If you have shyness you have most likely observed how some people express themselves freely and others do not. If you are one of those individuals who likes to challenge what is possible for yourself, this article will prove to you that you do have free-will over this mantle guarding something that you most likely didn’t even know was there. What psychologists usually do not understand about overcoming this mantle is that it cannot be solved through the branched behaviours alone or even with the emotional release of the original trauma.
What is shyness?
Well, in a nutshell shyness is the conditioned emotional program that constricts and restricts ones full natural charismatic expression. It is conditioned into, and stored in the unconscious mind of the individual by various negative beliefs and emotions such as:
1. I am shy.
2. I’m afraid of making a fool of myself.
3. I can never think of what to say when I’m with others.
4. I’m afraid others will not like me.
5. I’m afraid others will reject me.
6. I’m a loser.
7. I’m defective and/or deficient.
8. There’s something wrong with me.
9. I have inherited my shyness.
And so on.
All of these are generated, supported and justified at the unconscious level of the mind by negative memories of early life, which in a way disrupt the normal and smooth connection with others. These include memories of humiliation, rejection, embarrassment, inappropriate intimate interactions and so on.
Once the memories get recorded in the person’s mind/body they literally “define” them i.e. they program the person to believe that this is who and what they are. Once defined, the ability to shuck this definition seems almost impossible.
What’s interesting is that these negative beliefs and emotions behave like internal hypnotic suggestions that limit the person. You’ve likely seen or heard of shy individuals who were able to be quite gregarious when placed in a hypnotic trance. This is possible because the externally supplied suggestions are able to temporarily over-ride the internal ones thereby allowing a measure of freedom of expression.
The key however is that the effect is temporary. Temporary because the negative memories generating the internal hypnotic suggestions remain firmly ensconced and pervasively producing the internal suggestions that erode away at the external suggestions thereby re-imprisoning the person.
The only real way to permanently free one’s self from this enslavement is to erase the negative memories and their accompanying beliefs and emotions forever. This is done easily with a new coaching process called the Mind Resonance Process.
Continue reading to begin freeing yourself from your shyness mantle, through the short exercise below.
Did you know that underneath the mantle of shyness is a deep fear of being judged, rejected, criticised, and humiliated? Did you know all that stems from early negative memories of abuse, rejection, abandonment, neglect, misunderstanding, humiliation stored in the subconscious mind that behave like “emotional landmines” waiting to go off and release their toxic emotional load?
Finally, did you know those landmines can be completely diffused by erasing/deleting the memories associated with them thus releasing one from the bondage of shyness forever?
How does one do that you ask?
A negative memory isn’t a static thing, but rather it is very much “alive” and active in the subconscious mind. In many ways it is like an emotional scar that if re-injured, elicits the old pain it has stored in it. This is what makes emotionally “injured” individuals overly sensitive to others and to the uncertainty their life experience throws at them. In this way they often feel handicapped and find success harder to achieve than those less traumatised.
There is a strong desire to compensate for the deep pain one carries inside and one “compensatory strategy” is through shyness. You see, shyness isn’t just a problem it is also a way of coping with the pain that is inside that person. In other words it is employed as a way to help one function in the world.
Does that seem surprising or contradictory to you? You see most individuals are too focused on seeing shyness as a problem that they miss the fact that it is actually being used for something. Now please don’t misunderstand me, I am not suggesting that shyness is in any way “useful” rather it is in pursuing how it is “thought” to be useful that one can find the key to erasing it completely and permanently.
Let me give an example to help you begin to shift out of your shyness.
As I said, shyness is a way of protecting ones self from being or feeling rejected. That means there is a deep fear of rejection underneath that shyness. How does that fear serve you?
Well if we look at it closely one might say that it motivates them to be hyper-alert to potential rejection… so that they can be prepared for it… so that they can avoid it. If that is the case then they would supposedly feel safe, secure, relaxed, calm, confident, carefree, able to be spontaneous by themselves, authentic, honest, fully self expressed, strong, resilient, and indifferent to the opinions of others.
So what is being suggested here is that the fear of rejection makes one feel all the above.
Does that sound like true or false? Well if you compare it to what it feels like to be caught in that fear, I think you’ll readily see that the statement is false.
So, now take a moment and notice how you react to the following short simulation:
You are going over to your friend’s house and when you get there and he/she answers the door. A big cheer goes out from over 100 people who are there to celebrate your surprise birthday. Many of these people you have never met before. Many of them come over to you during the party to talk to you. Now stop and notice how you are feeling. Notice if anything about your reaction surprises you. Often after going through the short exercise above individuals will feel much more open, confident, relaxed, and able to enjoy the experience of meeting perfect strangers. In other words their shyness, albeit not completely gone, will have diminished significantly.
The reason it is diminished is because rejection is not something they need to defend against in the same way as before. That is because it has been partially erased. Now it is not completely gone because there is a bit more to this process.
To fully erase it one must also erase the negative memories from the past stored within you that are responsible for and are generating that fear; in doing so you allow your spontaneous charismatic self to push past this false mantle. So if you wish to follow up on this, click on the link below to request a free introductory telephone/Skype consultation that will help you begin to completely erase/delete shyness and its roots from your life.
Felicity Muscat is the Founder of The Institute of Self Mastery which was created to help others fulfil the truest, highest, and most authentic expression of themselves in all areas of life.
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Felicity Muscat, former psychologist is now an international self-esteem, self-empowerment, and self-mastery life coach. Felicity is also a relationship and success coach, author of three best-selling books and Level 3 mind resonance coach.
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