Common Questions I get from Couples and what i discovered about the Keys to Fixing and sustaining long term relationships and setting them up for success.
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If you have considered seeing or have seen a relationship therapist in a attempt to improve romantic relationships and resolve interpersonal conflicts then that is what i do, but more.. Below i want to answer some of the common questions i get
So lets start by answering some common questions i get and i want to touch on how couples therapy is a little different to what i do and identify why i chose to move in this direction to better help the people i serve. I learnt along the path in my studies and through my own relationships struggles that changing any behaviour patters that cause relationships to fail, really needs more than conversations and emotional support systems.
I learnt that communication alone and talking things out is really ineffective for major problems couples face, creating loss of love attraction or liking towards each other and enjoyment in each others company.
Is it a good idea to see a Therapist for my relationship. Often, one of the most best outcomes of couples therapy is an increase in communication, and a major improvement in its quality. Communication is effective in expressing ourselves yes, and our ability to communicate can determine if we are heard and allow our partners to act on our feelings and unmet needs. Communication in general can allow the therapist to see if there is any limitations in your thinking that may be putting unnecessary pressure on your partner or making him or feel responsible for things that are really not a partners responsibility, for example, like being with you all the time and you feel upset that he doesn’t stay home ect and address underlying causes for tensions in the relationships.
What is the effectivness of Therapy
Traditional Couples therapy uses, Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) is now roughly 75 percent. effective. I find that releasing emotions are not enough to fix underlying issues , therefore i do not use EFT i use MRP in which address;s underlying causes for emotional responses. I find i am better able to serve my clients, if i can help them once and fix the true causes or the relating issues so they do not need to continue it long term so they can actually have and enjoy the benefits from the improvements addressing underlying issues can achieve.
What are the benefits of couples counselling alone.
Here are just some of the couples counseling benefits you can expect from our work together:
- Better communication with your partner and ability to communicate more often.
- Deeper connection as smaller resentments are released..
- More physical and emotional intimacy.
Why do couples go to counseling?
My clients mention and not all reasons include,
- Are money problems in the relationship, or the spending patterns of one or both partners causing stress and worry to override feeling secure and positive towards the future,
- Sex either, desires creating resistance in one partner or perfromance issues of one partner affecting sex and intimacy and feeling of connection
- Although i find, most people will contact me, if they are frustrated and emotionally drained and want to feel heard seen and validated towards how they feel. Its my job to assess who each individual person is, in the partnership, ensure both are being true to themselves, there needs are being met, there values are aligned, and they both have the emotional maturity to create a partnership not dependant relationships or follow ship in which create loss of attraction, create feelings of resentments to builds extra pressure on both partners other areas of lives.
I am Felicity Muscat, founder of the Institute of Self Mastery. I’m a trained Master NLP Practitioner, Master Mind Resonance Coach , author of over 200 articles In Psychology, Mindset, Success and Business & Relationships, A Relationships coach and Couples therapy specialist.
My drive that propelled me to do what i do and figure out the key to Successful relationships is this ,
An extraordinary life is created by an ability to form relationships and create bonds to others, we as humans were not designed to need space form other humans, or to be on our own, yes we can survive on our own but what is optimal for our wellbeing is being connected to others in relationships and community.
Felicity Muscat Institute Of Self Mastery
The problem with not being able to create this, is we create what we do not want, as opposed to what we do not want and start to believe relationships mean hard work, relationships are painful, I am better off alone.
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