How to stop sabotaging relationships and get the love, connection and relationship you want
By Felicity Muscat
Did you know that many people who are afraid of rejection, intimacy, and abandonment often tend to fall into self-sabotaging behaviours such as manipulation, avoidance, overeating, jealousy, drug and alcohol use, infidelity and so on in order to try and “protect” themselves from being rejected?
Did you know that such self-sabotaging tendencies are:
a) automatic and outside of the individual’s conscious control;
b) driven by deeply buried subconscious programs rooted in early negative memories of rejection, abuse, abandonment, humiliation etc.;
c) like a self-fulfilling prophecy, only leading to what the person most fears i.e. rejection?
Finally, did you know that it is now possible to permanently delete all self-sabotaging programs from within and wake up from this negative trance-like state simply by erasing the old negative memories that generate them? Want to learn why this is possible and how it can help you become a self-confident and self-respecting, mature adult who can create and sustain healthy relationships?
Individuals who have experienced early life abuse, neglect, abandonment, humiliation, rejection and so on, store these negative memories of those experiences as well as the emotional pain of those events within their unconscious mind. This pain exists as feelings of sadness, rejection, worthlessness, failure, inadequacy, insecurity, feeling unwanted and unlovable, self-hate, shame and neediness.
These feelings behave like what I have termed ‘emotional landmines’ that explode, releasing all of the old emotional pain whenever a person experiences, perceives or anticipates some form of rejection which in any way resembles old negative emotional experiences from their past.
At these moments, as way of attempting to protect themselves from experiencing new rejections as well as being overwhelmed by the re-emergence of the old emotional pain, they often get triggered into employing unhealthy and self-sabotaging tendencies such as: trying to control their partner, avoiding people, having affairs as a way to get the needed “love” and validation from someone else – all as a way of feeling safe, secure, loved and wanted.
As I think you can see, such programs are only self-destructive to the person and their relationships. Unfortunately, for many people these negative tendencies are automatically triggered; leaving the person feeling like a passive victim of the damage that these memories inflict.
What many don’t realise is that these negative self-sabotaging programs are also driven by the negative memories of old experiences stored within the subconscious mind. However, much like a computer program, they can now be permanently deleted or erased thereby leaving the person feeling consciously in control of themselves and able to make healthy, self-respecting choices.
What’s more, by doing so, they also start to become self-confident, gain self-esteem and self-worth, feel empowered, attractive, lovable, and able to have healthy relationships.
So if you are caught in such a negative cycle and would like to experience what it feels like to re-create your life, contact me via the link below where you can request a complimentary introductory phone/Skype consultation.
Felicity Muscat is the Founder of The Institute of Self Mastery which was created to help others fulfil the truest, highest, and most authentic expression of themselves in all areas of life.
If you have tried other approaches that have failed and are ready for change, request a complimentary introductory phone/Skype coaching consultation to help you get started on your journey back to your peak performing empowered and alive self today. To learn more and explore others’ success stories, download Felicity’s eBooks.
Felicity Muscat, former psychologist is now an international self-esteem, self-empowerment, and self-mastery life coach. Felicity is also a relationship and success coach, author of three best-selling books and Level 3 mind resonance coach.
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