How To Stop Being Needy and Create a Healthy Relationship
How to Stop being needy
If you are one of those individuals, who are at odds as to why your relationships always fail and/or you are wondering why people suddenly disappear from your life or withdraw from you, and you are ready to do something about it, then this article is for you. This will shed some light on what the causes are, and how with a little tweaking of your unconscious drivers it is now possible to reclaim full ownership of your life, mind and body without counselling, coaching or endless hours trying to understand why you do what you.
You have most likely come to the awareness that needy behaviour is a huge turn-off. Do you know most needy people keep getting rejected simply because they don’t know they are needy?
So what does constitute as a needy behaviour and what can one do about it? Find it out here!
- Have fear of being alone.
- Need others to constantly text, call, or email you.
- Experience overpowering feelings of jealousy.
- Have fear of making decisions and taking responsibility for yourself.
- Need to possess your partner.
- Engage in affairs.
- Have a temper tantrums.
- Have a controlling personality.
- Need to please others.
- Regularly try to get attention from others.
- Are self-aggrandising.
- Need others to take care of you.
- Feel like a child in an adult body.
- Have low self-esteem, low self-worth, or low self-confidence.
- Feel empty inside.
- Feel like there is something wrong with you.
- Feel unattractive.
- Need others to validate, accept, like or love you.
- Need to belong to a group.
- Have a few of your own interests or hobbies.
- Are afraid of rejection.
- Are afraid of abandonment.
- Are shy.
- Are unsure of yourself.
- Keep making bad relationship choices.
- Keep getting rejected.
- Are self-sacrificing.
- Need to be rescued.
And so on, then you have a significant “neediness” problem which has and will continue to plague your relationship life forever.
The items above result from old dysfunctional relationships in your family of origin, the memories of which remain firmly stored in your subconscious mind much like computer software. However, most individuals do not realise that this programming (also referred to as “conditioning” by some) has a powerful influence on one’s self-confidence, self-image, sense of adequacy, wholeness and attractiveness.
The negative memories leave a deep emptiness that many feel can only be filled by others around them. This is the source of the “neediness” i.e. an emptiness that “needs” to be filled up. At the deepest level, it is about the need to feel loved, desirable, wanted, welcomed, useful, validated, acknowledged, appreciated, accepted and so on.
What has not been recognised is that a) these needs can “never” be met by others and b) can only be sourced from within.
So where or what is that “source” you ask?
Well it was discovered a decade ago that negative memories themselves are responsible for generating the feeling of emptiness. This emptiness refers to what I call a “deficiency” of Life Force Energy from the mind/body. The negative memories deplete one’s energy and leave them with a feeling of emptiness in its wake.
What has been discovered is that by “erasing” those negative memories, Life Force Energy spontaneously returns and re-integrates itself with the mind/body leaving the individual feeling whole, complete, attractive, adequate, confident, capable, strong, and resilient again.
Learning to Erase
So how does one accomplish this “erasure”? Well, a new coaching process has been developed to do just that. To learn more about it or to request a free introductory telephone/Skype consultation that will begin to help you experience and remember who you were meant to be, click the link below.
Felicity Muscat is the Founder of The Institute of Self Mastery which was created to help others fulfil the truest, highest, and most authentic expression of themselves in all areas of life.
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Felicity Muscat, former psychologist is now an international self-esteem, self-empowerment, and self-mastery life coach. Felicity is also a relationship and success coach, author of three best-selling books and Level 3 mind resonance coach.
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