How to Lose Your Shyness and Develop Unstoppable Charisma?
Are you one of the millions of people in the world who suffer from shyness? Would you like to develop confidence, and become the attractive and carefree person you really are inside? If so, this article is for you!
First, I want to address some of the most common myths about shyness. Many people believe that shyness is just part of your personality. Some people are shy, and some people aren’t. While it is true that people have different personalities, the belief that shyness is just a personality trait is actually a limiting belief that is keeping you from your full potential. Once you realize that shyness is not something you just have to live with, you will probably want to get rid of it. After all, who wouldn’t want to live a life of confidence?
What is shyness?
Shyness, in a nutshell, is simply a conditioned emotional program that constricts and restricts the natural charismatic expression of the individual. This conditioning is stored in your unconscious mind through various negative beliefs, such as:
- I am shy.
- I am afraid of making a fool of myself.
- When I’m with others, I can never think of what to say.
- I’m afraid others won’t like me.
- I’m afraid others will reject me.
- I’m a loser.
- I’m not good enough.
- There’s something wrong with me.
- I inherited my shyness from my parents.
All of these beliefs and feelings are caused by hurtful memories you experienced earlier in your life. These memories disrupted the natural, normal, and smooth connection that you had with other people. Some of these memories may have included embarrassment, humiliation, rejection, and even abuse and neglect.
After these memories are encoded in your unconscious mind, they start to actually define who you are. In other words, they create the person you believe you are. At this point, it is almost impossible to get away from these definitions. These beliefs work almost like hypnotic suggestions, telling you things about yourself that you would not otherwise believe and therefore limiting who you actually are able to be.
The power of hypnotism is very strong. One of the most common hypnotic “tricks” is to take a shy person, put him or her in a hypnotic trance, and have them become outgoing and gregarious. It’s not an act; the hypnotic trance was able to override the internal falsehoods supplied by the painful memories that otherwise limit the person.
Hypnosis, however, is temporary. The memories are still there, and when the hypnosis is over they regain their control over the person. They re-imprison you.
There’s good news, though, if you want to regain control over your life and beat shyness forever. You can remove these negative memories that enslave you, and become an outgoing and socially capable person.
Other modalities fail to cause permanent change because they don’t consider shyness as being connected to these unconscious memories. They can treat shyness temporarily, but in the end the results are only temporary.
You can permanently eliminate shyness from your life. In fact, you can do it so thoroughly that you won’t even remember that you were shy! You have to want it, and you have to have enough courage to make it happen.
I offer a coaching process that can help you erase those negative memories that are holding you back from the life you want. Check out my website below, sign up for a free introductory consultation, and get started on your journey to full charismatic self-expression and empowerment!
Felicity Muscat is the Founder of The Institute of Self Mastery which was created to help others fulfil the truest, highest, and most authentic expression of themselves in all areas of life.
If you have tried other approaches that have failed and are ready for change, request a complimentary introductory phone/Skype coaching consultation to help you get started on your journey back to your peak performing empowered and alive self today. To learn more and explore others’ success stories, download Felicity’s eBooks.
Felicity Muscat, former psychologist is now an international self-esteem, self-empowerment, and self-mastery life coach. Felicity is also a relationship and success coach, author of three best-selling books and Level 3 mind resonance coach.