How to improve self-esteem

By Felicity Muscat

If you are looking for answers on how to improve self-esteem, it’s important we lay some important foundations first
Hi I am Felicity Muscat A Confidence Coach in Sydney and Abroad,

I am Writing this article so that you can finallyDiscover how to Restore self-esteem and confidence So you can be the best version of yourself and feel amazing about who you are and what you can do  

Do you feel unworthy and un-confident? Do you wish you had higher levels of self-worth and esteem to live your best life? Do you wonder when you are going to begin feeling great to be you? Do you walk into a room and fear what others think of you?

Does that voice in your head, speak to you daily and you have tried positive affirmations and are tired of trying to override the negativity daily? Are you feeling you lack self-esteem and confidence and are not even sure how to change it? Or are you not even sure what the difference between Self-esteem and Self-confidence is.? Are you feeling the effects  not having these two success keys Confidence and esteem and are noticing what not having them, is doing to your opportunities and the decisions it is causing you to make? If so, then you are in the right place.

Did you know that low self-esteem affects almost every choice you make and causes all your choices to not be, to your benefit?

In this article, I will outline the steps on how to uncover the things that are decreasing your self-esteem, so you can understand what is needed to restore self-esteem and confidence. Tying to improve a low level to begin with, when the foundations are created by negativity is not a plan for long term success. If you want to be the best version of yourself and feel amazing about who you are and what you can do and have a genuine goal to get your confidence back or to restore your self-esteem this article will give you the knowledge and update any wrong info you have been previously taught.Do you even believe it’s possible to improve self-esteem and confidence are you even unsure of  how to improve self esteem and how to be confident

The first step is, do you even believe it’s possible to improve self-esteem and confidence?

 

Here is the secret, if you think it is increased by external factors or only will increase when you accomplish certain things, then that’s why you are frustrated with it not changing, or only fluctuating temporarily

Let me explain

Self Esteem is not generated by knowledge or techniques as even if one is able to attain a small level of success by a technique or trick the level of self-esteem will beat that person back down, to a level of worth equal to the low level of self-esteem.

Self Esteem is the way one sees themselves is it shaped by external programming by the way we were treated or not treated and in turn creates negative self-perceptions that we learnt about ourselves. In order to change negative self-perceptions in which are creating low self-esteem, we need to remove the limited labels that are causing it.

Once one removes the negativity, the level of self-esteem does not increase, it’s restored back to the neutral set point and in turn, results in the natural feelings of esteem and confidence. As a result of this, one can effortlessly make better choices to improve the opportunities available in the attainment of one’s desires.

See Self-esteem and confidence are the foundations for the type of life, you can create for yourself. If you choose to ignore it the level of self-esteem and confidence will determine the things you can and cannot attract and basically what you can do and achieve in the world, it’s the foundation for everything else

What the mind can conceive it can achieve, well just because your mind can come up with an image. Does not mean you, which is separate from the mind has the confidence to actualise it, that’s the gap to creation

So, therefore, it makes it impossible to have the self-esteem needed to make positive change as well as the confidence to go after what you want.

Step two

Is to understand that self-esteem and confidence can be restored by learning what has caused it to be diminished and remove it. Let’s start as to where it is formed, did you know that low self-esteem is something that is actually programmed into you by negative memories in early childhood. These memories continue to reside in your subconscious mind. Whilst they are there, no amount of effort to change external things can override the results you are currently getting or improve self-esteem long term, later in this article I will explain why.

Step 3 Identify your self-esteem level by describing whom you think you are to another person, it doesn’t have to be another person, you can just pretend you are describing yourself, pretend you had to explain who you were to someone, what would you say? do you see yourself in a negative light or positive, what are some of the thoughts that come up?

Step 4 is to Understand what actually creates thoughts to be in the mind, so you can know what belief is generating that thought. Say for example your mind comes up with a negative thought that I am not enough, thoughts cannot exist in the human mind without an anchoring memory, that’s a big statement but its the truth, Every thought you think about yourself is coming from an old experience in which when formed, your mind was in the developmental stage, which is the age your mind is vulnerable to external suggestion by experiences that happened to you and your mind associated  the experience with meaning something about you as a person. The past makes us who we are right? Wrong. If i was hit by a truck is my name and my identity a truck?  No, so believing that our past is who we are and letting it control our self esteem our whole lives, is really a waste of  opportunities we could have attracted if those limitations were not there.

Once you know what thoughts are present, you can start to trace it back to an initial experience. If you haven’t found it just yet, there could be several reasons, the memory behind it may be quite painful and your mind is suppressing it to keep it out of your conscious awareness.

Step 5, based on the above, identify where this negativity came from, is my self-esteem diminished because of one of the following. I feel worthless, do I feel unlovable, do I feel not good enough, do I feel hurt and like nothing good happens to me because of the cards you were dealt in the past if yours is different it’s okay, you can still use your own negative thought and trace it back to an experience.

If you identified with any of the above I explain in a little more detail, the cause of each.

If you feel unlovable, these esteem breakers are usually implanted if you were neglected, left alone a lot or treated a certain way or got lesser treatment than others. Try to write the experience down so you know the cause.

If your esteem is low as you feel worthless, experiences of abuse, being criticised, or having parents who had high expectations of you that you cannot meet, will contribute to these feelings so write your experiences down.

If you feel not good enough, then this self-esteem hindering belief, is formed by beliefs that will make you feel that you have to be more than who you are, to get love. This will, in turn, create you to try and compensate constantly and you will feel like you always have to be good, perfect, be like someone else, do things to help others to get love attention as you didn’t get this growing up. This belief will go back to these types of experiences and make your Psyche hide the real self-causing low self-esteem as feelings of being good enough will only be generated if you adhere to one of the above, help others, be perfect, achieve qualities of whom you perceived the favorite to be. The problem with this is that those expectations on yourself will fluctuate and can change at any time throughout your life and in turn, if they are not met will generate feelings of low self-esteem. If your self-esteem is built on achieving the above it will be a faulty foundation and you will feel it’s hard to create a life that you truly desire as, we are not good enough if we do or be something we are good enough based on the unique qualities we each possess and certain experiences have taught us otherwise.

Each belief that reduces self-esteem is generally tied to experiences and memories. In order to override these negative thoughts, a lot of practitioners teach you can remove the belief by itself. That’s not how the mind works, beliefs hold structures in place, that hold memories of those experiences in place that generate low self-esteem, so if you try to remove one belief contributing to a structure of low self-esteem, you need to know what other beliefs are there and how to remove the associated memories to stop it coming back and be triggered again.

Negative memories behave much like hypnotic trance states that distort your perception of yourself and make building self-esteem feel impossible as they override any positive attempts to do so and shape the way you see others and the reality in which you exist. In other words, they create an illusory dream world that you believe to be your reality. This is much like the experience of being trapped in a nightmare that you can’t wake up from and high self-esteem cannot exist whilst they are being triggered daily. Not only that, they affect your mental health and limit overall Mental health, but Mental processes are also reduced, but memory is also altered and short term memory reduces each time one of these memories is triggered.

Such a predicament can make one feel helpless, hopeless, trapped, alone, fearful, doomed, depressed and like choosing to give up on life. Sadly, too many people with low self-esteem have made that unfortunate choice.

However, there is now a way to “wake up” from this set of structures that were implanted there.

A lot of clients come to me after seeing psychologist, Nlp practitioners and are taught, how to anchor the state of confidence, that’s not how the mind works, you can’t anchor  a state permanently to boost confidence, they come to me anxious about their confidence in themselves and or their confidence in their ability to do the things they really want. They have had a lack of confidence and wanted to to how to change this so that could start to feel good about themselves.

I have been studying the human mind for 15 years and through my own confidence and esteem issues was determined to find a way. If they got inside of me I knew I could get them out.

If you Want the Success Secret- What you must know about Self Esteem, and the Truth about Permanent Change in achieving high self-esteem. Hint you cannot find this info anywhere on the web keep I have written a really simple explanation on why you need self-esteem.I discovered all self-esteem issues are created by how we take on beliefs about self, based on how others responded to us and this is fuelled by beliefs that create, certain states and feelings and low levels of esteem that get triggered at certain times. I also learnt that all negative beliefs reducing self-esteem can be removed as they were only taken on as a survival mechanism to fit in and not challenge those who implanted the negative messages we received.  it took me 9 years to remove the permanently as I didn’t learn this from a book, or my degree, I learnt it through trial and error over and over and I would love to share how easy it is

It took me 9 years to figure out how to do this permanently, as I didn’t learn this from a book, or my degree, I learnt it through trial and error, over and over and I would love to share how easy it is, it is a process of changing the way you think, so knowledge alone cannot change the structures,

I am inviting you for a Free Diamond esteem activator session

In this 60 min session, we will make it about you and discover

  • How you truly see yourself whether it comes from an old experience and outline a plan to change it
  • Discover your secret confidence blockers
  • Uncover the obstacles to get free from the negative self-perception in the to balanced diamond-like self-esteem that is resilient to external factors like rejection and humiliation and get clear and confident in who were before these experiences limited you
  • Learn about which experiences, are shaping how you see yourself, learn the secrets where it comes from and learn, how to remove the negative self-perceptions lowering your self-esteem
  • You will learn the inside secrets of how the mind works
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Felicity Muscat is the Founder of The Institute of Self Mastery which was created to help others fulfil the truest, highest, and most authentic expression of themselves in all areas of life.

If you have tried other approaches that have failed and are ready for change, request a complimentary introductory phone/Skype coaching consultation to help you get started on your journey back to your peak performing empowered and alive self today. To learn more and explore others’ success stories, download Felicity’s eBooks.

Felicity Muscat, former psychologist is now an international self-esteem, self-empowerment, and self-mastery life coach. Felicity is also a relationship and success coach, author of three best-selling books and Level 3 mind resonance coach.

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