How to Gain Confidence
So you can live your best life and achieve your goals By Felicity Muscat, No part of this article can be used without the Authors permission
I am Felicity Muscat, founder of the Institute of Self Mastery. I’m a trained Mind resonance coach author of over 200 articles on Psychology, Mindset, self development and Confidence Coach, Sydney based life coach and working on Skype with clients in 21 countries, and Level 3 practitioner of the Mind Resonance Process. I help people who are struggling with mindset challenges, who’s current level of self esteem and confidence limits what they can be and do in the world, who struggle being themselves and want to have confidence in who they are and what they can do in the world and help them develop the right foundations to achieve that.
My drive that propelled me to do was my drive to stop at nothing to master my own confidence issues, and ti learn how to gain confidence was this. I learnt this simple understanding,
Self Esteem is not generated by knowledge or techniques as even if one is able to attain a small level of success by a technique or trick the level of self-esteem will beat that person back down, to a level of worth equivalent to the low level of self-esteem.Self Esteem is the way one sees themselves is it shaped by external programming by the way we were treated or not treated and in turn, the creates negative self-perceptions we learnt about ourselves. In order to change negative self-perceptions, creating low self-esteem. We need to remove the limited labels that are causing it. Once one removes the negativity, the level of self-esteem increases and in turn confidence is then generated by the new self-perception and the results are, one can effortlessly make better choices to improve the opportunities available in the attainment of one’s desires. Institute Of Self Mastery- Felicity Muscat
The first thing you need to know, is the difference of self confidence in self, self esteem and being confident in ones capabilities
The one i want to touch on is, lacking confidence in who you are as a person. If you are a person who experiences feelings of not being good enough and want to feel good and feel more confident ? As the below excersize will help with that type of confidence issue
Do you feel that it’s normal to actually have the belief of not being good enough inside you, creating self-doubt?
If you have this belief, you will
Do you feel like it’s normal that you have to be and do things in order to feel good within yourself? Do you find yourself overcompensating for yourself and others to feel better? Many people don’t understand where such feelings about themselves come from, and so they continue to harbour and allow these feelings to run their lives. Most people also believe that these emotions and not feeling good is ‘normal’. If this is you, and up until now you felt that you were doomed to actually have such a toxic thing run your life, you are in for a surprise.
The thing is, these feelings originate from a collection of experiences that anchor in your mind and body and generate the subsequent feelings that accompany them. If you have yet to experience freedom from these feelings and still lack self confidence in life, after trying several things, here is why.
What would be possible for you if these feelings were no longer running your life? Firstly, you would begin to feel at peace with who you are. Put simply, you would no longer have to do anything other than be who you are; to feel and experience feelings of high self-worth and esteem and meet your goals. This would be a natural feeling that you experience permanently.that confident people naturally have. I know this as i have too been on both sides of the fence .
Seems impossible right?
Clients often say to me “but these beliefs help me to be more and do more”. This is a lie, which has been conditioned into their subconscious. If you are tired and frustrated with having to work hard to feel these natural feelings of confidence within yourself and you believe that this is normal, then try the below exercise. The sensation of feeling great about yourself is actually a part of who you are and more than this – it is your natural birth right.
With the belief I don’t feel good enough, living inside of you, simply ask yourself this question:
How do I feel with this thing living inside of me? Take a moment and notice if you feel energised or like your energy just dropped.
Which one of the two happened? You felt motivated, inspired and hopeful, or you felt unmotivated, deficient and like something is wrong with you?
If that belief created the second experience for you, continue reading.
If you recognise that the belief ‘I don’t feel good enough’ makes you feel bad about yourself; say the following to yourself now.
- I don’t like feeling like I am not good enough.
- I want to feel whole, complete, adequate and sufficient without having to work at it.
- I want to become aware of the underlying factors that have programmed me to believe that I am not good enough and I would like to feel inspired to want to release these from my life once and for all.
Now, take a moment, go inside your body and focus on your heart region. Notice what you are beginning to feel there.
You may become aware of some of the following feelings starting to emerge: lightness, warmth, joy, contentment, hope, peace, calmness, inner strength, a sense of confidence, a feeling of wholeness, completeness, and a feeling that you are a normal and alive human being.
What this exercise has done has allowed you to help your Life Force Energy to re-enter your body. Your Life Force Energy is either inside your body or outside of it. If you feel like your enthusiasm and feelings of energy just rose, it is a sign that the Life Force Energy is coming back into your body.
Feelings of confidence and high self-worth are a part of who you really are; your authentic self. Life Force Energy will however be forced out of your body based on a collection of negative past experiences in your life. This leads to the lack of enthusiasm, sadness, hopelessness, lack of motivation and energy that you experience.
The above exercise has begun to help your Life Force Energy re-enter and re-integrate itself with your mind and body and has started to build your self confidence. It is that integration that makes you natural, alive and human. Your Life Force Energy was depleted from your mind and body by the negative memories of your life stored in your unconscious (also known as your physical body and unconscious mind).
This “stuff” you have termed your life history has essentially been “kicking you out” of your body, leaving you with a feeling of emptiness, incompleteness, inadequacy and so on. As long as it remains there you will always feel this and will always have a need to compensate for it in some way. In other words you’ll find yourself doing a lot of work! That work leads to even more of your Life Force Energy being expended from your mind and body. That depletion of Life Force Energy is what is ultimately responsible for the “not good enough feeling”. That’s all it is.
It is now possible to begin to erase that life history easily, permanently and powerfully by employing a new process. To learn more about how you can reclaim your “good enough” state and feel whole and complete, contact me via the link below where you can request a free introductory phone/Skype consultation that will allow you to begin this journey.
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