Many people find themselves being a doormat in their relationships, because they believe deep down that they will be rewarded for doing so.
But there the only “reward” you’ll receive for this self-destructive strategy is a downward emotional and physical spiral,
Your tendency to submit to being a doormat for others is caused by conditioned programming laid down in early life through negative events such as abuse, neglect, humiliation, abandonment, criticism and judgement. This all becomes stored within you in the form of negative memories.
Did you know that those negative memories behave like an invisible puppet master, feeding you misinformation about who you are, what you are worth, and affects how you choose “not” to live your life?
It’s possible to completely rid yourself of this self-destructive program once and for all and take back the helm of your life. Would you like to know how you can do this, and stop being a doormat in your relationships?
In order to move to a place of empowerment, the first step is that you must admit to yourself that this self-destructive tendency is simply that – and that it is your heart’s desire to renounce it.
If you feel you are ready to do that, try this short exercise.
Place one hand over your heart and as if you are speaking from your heart region, simply say the following:
“I realise that this tendency for being a doormat is destructive to me and my life and I whole heartedly wish to have it purged from my mind, body and life so that I can reclaim my rightful ownership and control over all of it.”
Now take a moment and notice how you feel inside. At this point you may have one or both of the following experiences:
- Many feel some or all of the following in the heart region; a feeling of lightness, peace, joy, relief, strength, stillness, ability to breathe, resilience, clarity and so on. If you feel any of this and you like the experience simply affirm that to yourself and it will grow stronger.
- Some of you will also become aware of some internal resistance to the above statement which may be experienced as a negative voice from within the mind, fear, worry, anxiety, blockages, pains etc. If you notice any of this simply affirm your awareness of it via your heart and it will begin to diminish somewhat. Next, if you wish, simply affirm that you do not like this resistance living within you and you would like it purged from your mind and body forever and it should ease further.
Change Your Unconscious Beliefs and Stop Being a Doormat In Your Relationships
Having done this you will likely have a greater degree of inner strength and clarity about your situation; meaning that now you will be more open to what is to be said.
That resistance is what I call the videotape of your so called life history, stored in your unconscious mind/body which you have identified yourself with. Much of it consists of negative memories that limit and control you.
This same life history has depleted and exiled your Life Force Energy (i.e. Your true self) from your body and has left it in a weakened and vulnerable state. In other words, you have not been fully in your body all this time.
The positive feelings above that I have helped you rekindle is a partial experience of your Life Force Energy returning to your mind and body. As you can see this is an inherently empowering experience. This is also what it means to be alive, living the way you intended to, and fully in charge of your life.
In order to solidify your footing in your mind/body it becomes imperative that all the old negative memories of the past be completely erased from within.
There is now a new coaching process that does this rapidly, effortlessly, permanently and completely.
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Felicity Muscat, former psychologist is now an international self-esteem, self-empowerment, and self-mastery life coach. Felicity is also a relationship and success coach, author of three best-selling books and Level 3 mind resonance coach.