It’s not a coincidence that you attract situations that aren’t what you desire.
Settling for the man with kids, taking the job with less pay, putting up with the unsavoury housemate, or staying with the woman who isn’t fully committed when you truly desire to be with someone who is.
Many people live with a fear of rejection; instead of taking life by the horns and creating what they desire, they just grab and take whatever situation comes along.
Many of these people believe “if it happens it happens” and “if it crossed my path it was meant to be” or “if it works out then it was meant to be”.
The problem with this level of thinking is that it is not coming from your authentic fullest expression. These thoughts are being generated by the ‘fear of having what I truly want’ and desire with an unconscious belief of ‘I am not worthy of having what I want and desire’.
This belief was taken on in your earliest years, as a survival mechanism in the unconscious mind to protect you from disappointment.
As part of this strategy to protect yourself from further disappointment, there is a so-called ‘protective mechanism’ lying dormant in your unconscious mind which is shaping your behaviours and actions.
The problem with this strategy controlling your behaviours and thoughts is that your fear of rejection leads you towards unfulfilling situations and relationships, and leaves you asking yourself how did I get here, or how did this life happen to me.
To explain how this protection strategy works – picture someone coming across a situation or opportunity which this unconscious protection strategy deems the person is unworthy of experiencing.
That person will start to avoid, sabotage or notice a barrage of internalised rationalisations and excuses (generated from this fear) as to why they don’t want that positive life enhancing opportunity.
This fear of rejection unfortunately causes the person to unconsciously choose negative life choices and make bad career or relationship choices, leading to reduced self-esteem, confidence and over time; leading to depression
Temporary Solutions For The Fear of Rejection
So what is the solution to break free from this unconscious strategy? How can you stop these important decisions being made unconsciously on your behalf and remove all unconscious behaviours?
The solution is to challenge the unconscious strategy and not replace – but completely remove – all unconscious trigger systems in which this fear of rejection is hooked into.
The natural, unquestioned tendency is to “believe” that these past unconscious memories of disappointment are cemented in the memory, because it happened to you and therefore fundamentally represents who you are i.e. someone who has low self-esteem, low self-worth, low self-confidence, a fear of expressing their real self, feelings of inadequacy and so on.
These feelings continue to live deep within the person making them vulnerable to being re-triggered by daily events and making poor life choices. As a result, the individual’s choices are focused on trying to avoid such triggers – hence activating the fear of ‘I am not worthy of having what I truly want and desire’.
As you can see, this severely limits and constrains the expression of the individual not to mention the course of their life. In many cases attempts are also made to quench or dissipate those inner negative feelings through some form of sedative such as drugs or alcohol.
Although perceived as a temporary solution that allows them to endure otherwise untenable situations, the sedative approach only serves to enslave them to a life of addiction as a consequence of an unfavorable situation an individual seems enslaved in.
Break Free of Your Fear of Rejection, Permanently
Much like working with an outdated computer software with limited capabilities, it only makes sense to scrap the old, i.e. the past, and begin afresh with an entirely new script.
In the case of the “human hard drive”, i.e. the unconscious mind, it means erasing the memories of the so-called past and allowing for an entirely new and more expansive script to replace it. This results in life changing decisions whereby the individual chooses and creates from a place of free -will and not from the rejection concept.
In order to do this one must first bring into question the limiting belief that the “past cannot be changed”. How is this possible?
Well, there is now a new coaching modality whereby through a simple question and answer process, it is able to access the unconscious scripts that anchor those past memories inside you and literally detach them or erase them completely as well as the consequential beliefs shaping every day decisions.
As this happens, the limiting negative memories behind your fear of rejection simply begin to float away into space where they disintegrate and vanish from your consciousness forever. This allows a spontaneous and remarkable process to succeed it; the reintegration of what I have called your Life Force Energy back into your mind and body.
Life Force Energy is like a master computer programmer that has infinite knowledge and skill at reprogramming your mind. What’s more, it has only your best interests at heart and is there only to serve you.
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Felicity Muscat, former psychologist is now an international self-esteem, self-empowerment, and self-mastery life coach. Felicity is also a relationship and success coach, author of three best-selling books and Level 3 mind resonance coach.