People who seem overconfident or too interested in themselves are often called narcissistic.
Narcissism is a thought and behaviour pattern that involves many negative elements including:
- Fascination with the self
- Excess self-love
While narcissistic traits are a serious mental problem in adults, it is completely normal in children and is actually a necessary part of childhood development.
Adults who are narcissistic may not seem childish because they are confident, emotionally independent, self-assured and self-sufficient. However, the truth is that narcissistic adults are in fact “stuck” in a childlike state.
Unfortunately, no matter how much psychotherapy a narcissist endures, conventional treatment methods will never help them to achieve a mature sense of self.
The prognosis for a narcissist is not completely hopeless, though. In fact, I want to share with you a new program that can help adults to overcome their narcissistic traits and become truly mature, emotionally secure, and independent adults.
Narcissistic Traits and The Childlike State
Through my years of study and practice, I have come across many individuals who struggle with exactly the same problem – they are trapped in this ineffective and paralyzed narcissistic state.
I say “ineffective” because, while the narcissist displays outward signs of being highly confident and competent, he or she is actually almost incapable of functioning as a mature adult.
Narcissistic people are stuck in a childlike state. Think about a five year old. The child might be extremely confident and self-assured, but he or she is not capable of handling adult responsibilities. Neither is the narcissist who never grew past that level of childhood.
As it turns out, narcissistic individuals reside in what I refer to as a “child-like trance.” In other words, they actually feel and believe themselves to be emotionally like a young child. Imagine being put in a hypnotic state where you think and act as if you were five; now imagine that that state never wore off and you simply acted that way in your relationships, your job, and even relaxing at home or in public. It has implications just about as serious as you might imagine for your life.
From my years of practice, I have come to the conclusion that narcissistic individuals are in something akin to this hypnotic trance where they believe they are five. It negatively affects their lives about as you would expect. However, there is another powerful implication: the only thing they have to do to get out of this harmful trance is to wake up. That’s it!
The narcissistic person has the experience of their adult authentic self already fully formed inside, but it is divorced from the conscious experience. In other words, the mature, adult “true self” has been kicked out of the cockpit, while the immature intruder has taken over navigation and is causing the person to feel that they are childish and dependent on others.
How Childhood Criticism Encourages Narcissistic Traits to Develop
So how is this “trance” induced? Early in life, children are forced to adapt to less-than-hospitable social circumstances. This most often happens in the form of criticism.
A child who is constantly criticised comes to believe that he or she is:
- Lacking in self-confidence
- Unable to function in the world.
These beliefs cause the individual, in turn, to feel:
- Hopelessly alone
These beliefs and feelings are profoundly painful. Not only that, but they are threatening to the person who has them. In order to cope with these painful feelings, the child develops narcissistic traits as a defense mechanism. The problem is, these narcissistic traits cause the person to be ineffective and don’t allow him or her to progress emotionally past the age when he or she received the painful wound.
Breaking Free From Narcissism
In order to awaken the narcissistic person from the trance, their negative memories need to be erased and the harmful feelings dissolved. When this happens, the individual begins to wake up and discover who they really are. Even more so, they discover that this is who they have been all along – they just weren’t able to see it before.
With the narcissistic trance broken, the individual begins to feel like a competent and confident adult, with the qualities of being:
- Emotionally secure
- Loving towards self and others
- And truly attractive to others and self.
I have helped many individuals break free from their narcissistic traits, release their true selves, and become who they really want to be. My coaching process enables people who are stuck in all sorts of harmful patterns to reclaim their hijacked Life Force Energy.
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Felicity Muscat, former psychologist is now an international self-esteem, self-empowerment, and self-mastery life coach. Felicity is also a relationship and success coach, author of three best-selling books and Level 3 mind resonance coach.